CheeCha Puffs posted an article about how a school is banning eggs and dairy because of one child’s allergy to them and wow did it spark a reaction. I have to admit that I read some of the comments posted in utter disbelief. Ding ding ding, full on bike racks at 3:30. It was weird to read because we spend so much time teaching our kids to be respectful and how to deal with conflict. Yet when this subject came up all of that rational advice literally flew out the window. Here is the article in case you haven’t read it already: http://www.therecord.com/news/local/article/803744–severe-allergies-at-school-force-parents-to-not-pack-dairy-and-eggs-in-lunches
My heart hurts for that little child with a severe allergy and the parents who are now the bad guys. How did that happen? They were trying to protect their child by talking to the school about their child’s life threatening allergies, the school tried to help out, and now some parents are PISSED. The parents of the allergic child are understandably concerned about the safety of their child, and we can assume the school is also concerned about the safety of the allergic child and perhaps the liability of the school. And, the angry parents are also concerned. Can we not work together to alleviate everyone’s concerns without resorting to anger, rudeness and name calling?
Most importantly we must look at it from a child’s perspective. This might be what some children with severe allergies think “Wow that sure was scary when I had that reaction and went to hospital. Mom and dad were crying, I felt really bad. Good thing I don’t remember much. I’m sad now that I can’t have certain foods because I miss the taste, I miss being able to eat whatever the others kids are having at birthday parties, I actually cry when I get bullied for being different. It’s too bad that mom has to worry everywhere that I go, she seems stressed about it and I’m the one who caused it. Now people are fighting about me going to school, parents look at me with mean eyes, and some teachers don’t even like me. Why did this have to happen to me? Am I an inconvenience?”
Now do you still want to call that kid lacking in the gene pool? Survival of fittest? The reason why I say that is because someone actually said that on the CheeCha Puffs Facebook page. Enough air time for that one.
Let’s take a deep breath, step back and look at the situation. When we were young very few kids had allergies let alone anaphylactic reactions where they might die. The speed at which kids are developing these life threatening allergies is scary. Ya, sure maybe your child dodged the bullet this time, but if things keep on going the way they are chances are someone in your family will be affected in the future. The amount of chemicals in our environment is hurting them and I think we should take all of our spirited energy and focus on solutions. Trust me, it’s not just allergies that chemicals cause and chances are your kids or someone you know will be or has been affected by them.
Whether or not your children are affected please try to have compassion and understanding. These kids didn’t ask for it. They need us to take our own advice and come to a peaceful resolution that has their best interest at heart. For the record my kids don’t have life threatening allergies. Feel free to post your thoughts on this post, they are all welcome.